It’s one of my favourite coaching questions—especially for the worriers among us.
The Power of Perspective in Coaching
Inspired by Martin Seligman’s research on resilience and positive psychology, this nudge helps shift focus away from immediate worries or challenges. It encourages a broader, more pragmatic perspective on the issue at hand.
Why This Question Works
Neuroscience shows us that a strong sense of agency and self-efficacy boosts resilience. It enables people to adapt, overcome obstacles, and grow from challenges. This question encourages reflection, creating space for resilience to flourish.
Deepening the Conversation
Follow-up questions can help you unpack the issue even further:
- Will this still feel as significant in a month?
- What have you learned from similar situations in the past?
- How can you use this as an opportunity for growth?
It’s Not About Being Unrealistically Positive
Let’s be clear: this isn’t about ignoring challenges or being a “Pollyanna.” It’s about taking a pragmatic approach to assess whether the worry will hold long-term weight and exploring strategies to build resilience.
This coaching approach is equally effective in professional settings and personal conversations.
Want to Build Resilience in Your Team or Life?
For more insights on resilience and Seligman’s groundbreaking work:
Martin Seligman’s Work on Resilience and Positive Psychology
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